Too many of us are consumed with circumstances that we cannot control. Some of us torture ourselves with painful trips down memory lane. But the fact is we cannot turn back the clock. All we can do is move forward. While the past does have a profound effect on the future, today is already here. We must do everything that we can to not make today regrettable tomorrow.
My own personal method for doing so is to put things into perspective.
Perspective is a way of processing thoughts beyond sight. A way of analyzing a situation, or circumstances and putting them in their place. It means effectively accepting and being able to reconcile the things that you cannot change, and finding enough positivity at the crux of the matter to go on, and live. This is optimistic perspective. Let me be clear, there is also such a thing as pessimistic perspective. Pessimism is a negative thought process, no matter how subtle or inconsequential, it represents a critical conclusion to analytical thinking.
The glass will always be half empty instead of half full, and the focus for some will on the misfortune of their glass being half empty as opposed it being half full and searching for an opportunity to fill it to the brim.
Ones perspective can either drive them insane or empower them. The greatest battles are battles of the mind. If we can win those battles everything else will fall into place.
I've known quite a few people who have relocated. Each and every one of them really believed that a change of scenery would change their lives. But none of them gave a second thought to changing their minds. The majority of them floundered, blaming their new local for their failure, and a few persevered despite new challenges, and eventually thrived. The contrast in these two groups is the fact that those who met their impediments head on always did so, and always shined. The location didn't matter because of their perspectives. But those who failed, failed before they even relocated because they took their perspectives with them.
7 For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: