Marriage, and parenting, each one presents it's own unique challenges depending upon the variables involved. Life is never simple, and is often enigmatic in nature but this is a question that I have been pondering for quite some time now. There are day's when marriage is a breeze in comparison to raising, molding, and shaping a child into a productive citizen. But then there are day's that being a husband or a wife can be even more demanding because as individual's the urgency in which we require attention can change like the weather. Whether you're on the receiving end, or the reciprocator, it can be a task that can either result in complete fulfillment or an exercise in futility. I believe that marriage is the more challenging of the two.
Marriage is work, and child rearing is a responsibility. The word work used in this context may give the impression that it is being utilized as a negative connotation but, the fact of the matter is, anything that is rewarding, or worth investing in, requires work and dedication. In a marriage there must always be levity. A major part of levity is reciprocity, or give and take. Both husband and wife have to be willing to invest the time, energy and dedication necessary for them to thrive as a team. This requires massive amounts of understanding even when you don't understand, and loving your mate even when they aren't so lovable.
Raising a child is a responsibility simply because God blessed you with the ability to bring life into the world, and you did so. Not everyone has that option. Unlike a spouse, a child does not choose to be a part of your life and is not required to be beneficial to you. But you are required to be beneficial to them. You must love them unconditionally like God loves you. This is what parenting is all about. It is a lifetime commitment that cannot be broken. There is no out, no changing your name back to what it once was and no getting out of the relationship. It is truly a bond that lasts forever.
When two people agree to love, honor, and cherish each other in holy matrimony it can be a beautiful thing if both people love each other enough to put in the effort necessary to make their union flourish. Both husband and wife must be committed to a lasting partnership unaffected by petty differences, and strong enough to stand the test of time. A bond based on ever lasting love. Otherwise it is no more than a sham. An arrangement, with an emergency exit feature when the going gets tough.